It’s taken me a while to settle on my word this year – I start thinking about what I want my word to convey in December and roll ideas around for a while before I take the leap. This year I have once again subscribed to the One Little Word class run by Ali Edwards and her team. I took last year off from the class (but still had my word – HEALTH), but decided to give her new format a try. Before 2021, Ali guided the programme solo, but last year she changed it up to having a team giving and sharing prompts.
My word for 2022 is DIRECTION.
So, I am excited about what DIRECTION my word will take, but have not yet decided on the format to document it. I am trying to choose whether I make a journal, keep a travelers notebook or do a 6 x 8 album. For now, I have decided to start my prompts here on the blog, and then I have a little more time to choose which way to make my word visible. Some of the prompts to start the year are The reason why, the definition of your word, and to set intentions for the year.
The reason WHY?
Last year was a year of transitions, this year those transitions are becoming reality.
- In 4 weeks time, Holly will move out of home to follow her dreams and to study Law, Politics and History at Auckland University – the beginning of 5 years of university study.
- Mitchell has now transitioned into Adult services for his care and we have started to meet all of the teams in Dual Disability (mental health team), the District nursing team, and after his procedure at the end of this month, we will join with his new physio and respiratory teams.
- This week Phil will decide whether to remain at his job full time or to move on.
All of these big life changes for my family will have a ripple effect on me and how I can use my time. The past 6 months have been full of indecision -what will we do in the next 5 years, where do we want to live in the future, should we sell and move house, should I get full-time work, what work would I like to do, does Mitchell need residential care, what will happen to our economy, will Covid-19 continue to affect the way we live and for how long?
For the past 18 years my choices around work and where we live have been made to accommodate being near our wider family for support, being near to schools and a community that has opportunities, work hours that allow for flexibility for hospital appointments and specialists, a respite centre, school pick up and drop offs and for me to be home in the school holidays. Although we will still need to do most of this with Mitchell, because we are changing to adults the landscape changes so it is time for us to do an overhaul of what we want. Plus, I feel it is time for me to bring some balance back into my life.
All of this leads to my reason WHY?
I want to make some decisions to help me find a way forward that makes me feel happy and fulfilled. I was keen on the words thrive and authentic, but didn’t want a word that pressured me and therefore settled on the word DIRECTION. I love words with dual meanings and direction gives me that. Plus I love the symbolism and words associated with giving direction – arrows, up, down, north, south, east, west, maps, compasses, backwards and forwards. It offers unlimited possibilities.
The definition of DIRECTION
1: the course or path on which something is moving or pointing
2: a statement that tells a person what to do and how to do it : an order or instruction
3: instructions that tell you how to go to a place
I like to think of my intentions as a place where I can set some goals, and usually I target goals based on physical, spiritual and emotional aspirations. At the moment I feel as though I am working on these areas in my seasonal journal, so I am thinking that my intentions in relation to my word are more about how I use this word to SET UP the future path I want for the next 10 years – what direction we begin to take for the next few years for our family. In 10 years time I will be 65 – retirement age here in New Zealand.
How this relates to direction? Well, Phil and I have been mulling over so many different ideas on our next steps. How do we want our future together to look and how can we help Mitchell into a more independent future? We know that we want to stay in Auckland for at least one more year while Holly starts Uni – to be close for her if she wants to come home, and to be close to both my Mum and Phil’s parents. Phil’s dream is to build an off-grid container home on some land in the bush somewhere, mine, well I would like to live by the ocean. I like the container home idea, but I feel better when I am close to water and have easy access to a golf course (we both agree on that). The difficult part – how do we achieve the dream? What steps do we need to take to make progress towards that dream.
My intentions this year related to direction:
To set up a plan for Mitchell’s future – where will he live, how will he live, and how can we make this happen in the next 3-5 years.
To establish what direction I want to take for my work. Will I return to HR? Can I start a business? Do I want to stay part time or can I go full time?
To finalise what direction I want my book to take. Right now I am thinking it is about ‘a guide to building resilience so that you avoid carer burnout?’ – an almost impossible task. I am doing so well at it. cough cough.
To find my way to being an authentic me, using morning pages and continuing on a healthy trajectory.
To continue in the direction of living with my values – health, family happiness, creativity, achievement and energy.
So, for 2022, DIRECTION is my one little word.